FIGHTING THE FEAR OF REJECTION

Oleh : Anand Krishna

This is your problem. You are in fear. You cannot say that you love her. Why ? because you are fearful; you fear she may reject you. You are creating stress for yourself. You are killing yourself. It is a suicide. If it suits you, then go ahead. Good luck to you!
Be a man, take a risk. Tell her that you love her. Why should you be concerned if she rejects you? if she finds happiness with another man and if you claim that you love her, then shouldn't her happiness make you happy too?
First, find the meaning of love for yourself. Then, and only then, claim to be in love. The beauty of the thing is that when you are really in love, you stop claiming anything. Each and every cell of your body will vibrate with love energy. You become one with love, who is left then to claim anything....?
You are in fact not even confident of yourself. You love this girl and you are in fear that she may reject you. So, what do you do? you create a situation. First, you hire people; you tell them to stop her in the way, scare her to death. And, then you make your appearance. You become a hero, you save her. Now, the girl is in your arms. Not because she loves you, but because she is helpless. You are buying love. This will not be lasting.
You are afraid, why? Go and tell her that you love her. Where can she find a man like you, so gentle, so loving? but, perhaps you don't think so about yourself. You have so many dirty hidden avenues in your life, that your own guilty conscience is killing you. Your own conscience is making you coward.
No, a fearful man can never be a lover. The path of love is not meant for cowards. Be fearless, that is the first step you will be taking on this path of love, of life, without such fearlesness, you are more dead than alive....